After this some of the girls were going to the circus with the orphanage workers. Nastiya would be going, so Brian and Tami went home. I guess the kids had a choice if they wanted to go or stay, Anya and Lyena did not want to go. So we were invited upstairs with the rest of the group to play games. There was only a hand full of them up there, many of them watching American cartoons in Ukrainian on their TV. We played several hands of Uno with Lyena and Anya, while Vika(red Haired one) and Nastiya T. (blond girl) and little Vera watched, for some reason they were told over and over by Anya and Lyena they could not play. So when we began to play Jenga Matt and I insisted the little ones could play and this of course sent Anya into a pouting fit and she and Lyena left for a while. Matt & I ignored her and had a good time playing with and loving on all the younger girls. Even our little angry mean red haired Vika was nice and smiling. We had a good time. We left there a little after 6pm and Anya was fine by the time we went, ignoring her was a good plan.
That is all for now, it is Friday and the cleaning lady is coming soon so we must vacate the apartment again until 2pm.
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It always amazed me how self-centered and 'spoiled' our daughter seemed. Pouting, throwing little fits, always wanting her way. All the children pout, even boys. We have a friend in Ukraine right now adopting an eight year old little boy and he pouts.
We always visited our daughter in a little room with furniture, similar to the one you're in, but not a classroom. One day, she layed face down on the couch and wouldn't respond to us. Then she walked out mad, we don't really even know why. My husband and I just stood there, wondering what was going on and what we should do. We debated on whether we should just leave or go after her. I told my husband he should go after her. After that, things were just fine. I guess she was testing us in her own way because it never happened again during our visits.
When you think about it, even though they are in a large group, all they can focus on is their own survival and getting what they need. Actually, she still does that to a certain extent now that she is in our family.
To top it all off, they are emotionally immature because of not getting their needs met from 'responsible' adults while growing up. Hence the pouting and little 'fits' The orphanage environment only reinforces their self-centeredness. They are not really accountable to anyone for their attitudes like in a family.
I don't want to scare you too much, though. Things do get better. Our daughter is a totally different child than she was in Ukraine. Being home made a world of difference. I have to remind myself at times how things were so I can see how much she has changed in just six months.
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